Spend your money wisely
Humans are not all the same, who we are, what we do, how we learn, all vary from person to person. It’s the same with deciding to take control of our lives and our emotions, some individuals will follow the course closely and try the things advised, whilst others may just expect the program to “fix” them.
For some people anxiety serves a purpose and for others it’s a wake up call, a message from the unconscious to do something different – either way, the recording below will outline who this product is not aimed at.
The five types of anxious person
The first category is; – normal, intelligent people who have suddenly developed irrational fears and anxieties that have seemed to come out of no-where: Fearful of driving on motorways or suddenly becoming super anxious when flying or at social gatherings, business meetings and general everyday things like this.
There are many manifestations of this “situational anxiety” – the good news is (if this is you) is that this group respond really well to this process.
And just an observation here, often the causes of the anxiety actually began 6 – 8 before the first anxiety attack, perhaps after some form of trauma, bereavement, relationship problem or major stress in a person’s life.
Now the second group of individuals – are, those who have learned to be anxious – perhaps they had anxious parents or an anxious partner, and they have unknowingly just made being anxious part of their life – they say things like “It’s just the way I am” – “I don’t like it but what can you do?”
For these individuals change is possible, however, they need to realise that they have a victim attitude to life and this needs to change – they need to recognise that they can influence their life and they can influence their attitudes in any given situation.
So, change for this group is very possible, but you have got to want to do it – and importantly, you’ve got to want to do it for yourself.
So, onto group 3. This is a little sensitive, but it’s got to be said – some people are professional victims, and no matter what you do, or what you say – they will have an excuse and they will tell you why “it won’t work for them.”
They tend to seek help only when driven to by others – like a partner threatening to leave or an employer forcing their hand, and typically they tend to (unconsciously) sabotage any attempts for help – so they can say “see, I tried and it didn’t work”
In my experience they get some form of secondary gain by having this victim mentality – perhaps, they don’t have to make decisions or go to work, or maybe they get extra attention from others, – either way, the unhappiness and hard work involved in remaining a victim certainly outweighs the benefits – they are just stuck in an out-of-date cycle.
If this sounds like you – I would suggest that you save your money. You can be helped, but it is often only once you have hit absolute rock bottom that you will listen or try new things.
Group 4 – This is any individual who is experiencing Post Traumatic Stress Syndrome, extreme psychosis and extreme bi-polar depression – I’m afraid this product is not really designed for you – although it helpful when used in-conjunction with face to face therapy.
And the last group are those experiencing the many forms of OCD, Obsessive Compulsive Disorder – where you feel you need to repeat certain tasks and have a range of fearful thoughts and obsessive behaviours that trap and frustrate you.
A typical rule of thumb here is “for how long have you had it?” 15, 20 years or more, you are going to probably need to do some face to face therapy. If you are less than 20 years old or have only had it for 2 – 5 years then this course will certainly help – however, you will absolutely have to follow the course completely and lean into the fear a little, when you do that, good results are very possible.
That’s as honest an appraisal as I can give based on my experience – because I am keen to be realistic and objective as you move forward.
The course itself is designed for you to work through over a month or two — anxiety doesn’t just “turn off” but, as you change the rules, and apply the different ways of thinking and behaving that I describe, you’ll see that things gently fall into place.
Hopefully by now, you’ll have an idea if this is for you – so, my next step is to go into a little more detail about what’s involved – how it works, and to increase your confidence that this process will help you.
Now, when you boil anxiety down to its basic parts – it can be simply defined as – a problem of thinking too much! It is not a problem of how you feel. I know that sounds backwards and bizarre, however it’s true.
It is our thoughts that frighten us – and our emotional body responds to those scary stories running around in our mind and we get scary feelings which we want to retreat from.
However, most anxious people try to analyse their way out of their problems, so they worry more or think harder or explore other possible analytical solutions to their problem and this just fuels the cyclic conundrum they are in.
And this thoughts to feelings relationship is so easy to prove – if you have good thoughts, you have good feelings – scary thoughts, scary feelings, sexy thoughts, sexy feelings – and what goes on inside an anxious persons mind are typically anxious thoughts!
So, as we move forward we need to observe that the part of us that holds the key to reducing anxiety is stored in our unconscious mind, that’s why we might say “today I’ll be strong” and then when we get there – boom! our unconscious mind just hijacks us and floods us with emotional responses.
Therefore, if the anxiety problem is unconscious or sub-conscious, then no amount of conscious rational, analytical thinking is going to help – in fact, it actually makes things worse.
In the first part of my program I deeply and articulately explain this to you – through the use of biology, stories, metaphors and logic, I detail the inherent relationship between your conscious mind, your unconscious mind and your body. Or to put it another way, the complex strategies that happen between your biology, your physiology and your psychology.
Once you get this, once you can see the whole picture, most people say “oh!, I get it” – “I can see what’s happening here” – I can see how it operates – and at this point you are ready to play it at its own game, to neutralise it and slowly phase it out of your life.
At a most fundamental level we need to explore many other facets of who you are because anxiety is not the problem – anxiety is the symptom – I’ll say that again because it is so important – Anxiety is not the problem, it is the symptom – and as I prove this is true, you will then be able to identify and then work on the real sources of your anxiety (whatever that is for you)