Enneagram Type 4 the individualist or romantic or designer
In general, type 4′s are warm, sensitive and very perceptive to the needs and feelings of others. Although they are primarily a feelings orientated personality type, they possess high levels of intuition and creative vision, this is probably because their internal world is so creative and richly emotional that they can not only see other peoples points of view, but also, feel them too. Fours have deep underlying battles with guilt, shame, self-consciousness and the perception they are unlovable and somehow different from others. This differentness entices them to look for ways that they are unique, therefore, searching in great depth for meaning in life and attempting to surround themselves with beauty. Although they feel different and excluded they have a deep need to connect with others and to feel loved – this juxtaposition and internal emotional conflict may bring on moods and periods of melancholy / depression which (often) the four takes some form of negative satisfaction from wallowing in. They have a huge urge to be creative, yet at the same time, they have a huge urge to not be discovered.
Type 4 wing types:
Enneagram type 4 with a 3 wing is called the Aristocrat or Specialist – individualistic, distinctive, in style, high-powered
Enneagram type 4 with a 5 wing is called the Bohemian or Artist – deep, intense, moody, disciplined, focused
Type four enneagram – Attitudes towards anxiety and depression:
Depression, envy, loneliness and perfectionism often take their toll on a type 4 personality – the constant thinking and worrying that things are good enough (or different enough) often cause the person to procrastinate or fear committing to a project in-case they were to fail, this sparks off a fear of not being good enough and hence a depressive cycle may ensue. There is often an underlying anxiety too, however, it is often hard to detect because much of their life has been spent trying to be different so they have had to become (on the surface) proficient at hiding it. They fear rejection so often are attracted to what they feel they can’t have and develop a semi-safe dream world in their mind.
The Calmness in Mind Anxiety & Depression Treatment Program works well for Enneagram type 4‘s by teaching them that it is not their differences that will save them, it is their sameness. If they were to accept themselves (as they accept others) they would realise they are eminently lovable and romantic. The product shows them how to let go of depression once and for all and that wallowing in melancholy emotions is not necessary and quite destructive.
It also teaches them how to let go of feelings of envy, anger and self-consciousness – and as they allow themselves to become creative and productive they realise that their work is of a unique and high quality and they can feel safe putting it out into the world, they need to stop thinking and start doing. It also teaches them that it is OK to let people in and to share their feelings as that is one of the most important aspects of connecting with others, then you can really enjoy being an individualist enneagram type 4!