In this 69-minute video, I have dedicated significant time and effort to condensing my knowledge and experience into what I call my “Big Theory of Everything.” It was a challenging task, but I believe it is worthwhile, especially since life can be difficult without an owner’s manual.
I will share the ideas and metaphors that I have intentionally chosen to teach my unconscious mind, which have transformed my chaotic and hectic subjective reality into a more enjoyable experience.
John’s Big Theory of Everything! (Johnsciousness!)
Where I’ll bring together and strive to combine the various concepts I have shared into a practical blueprint, a comprehensive model for living which helped me find calmness, courage, and self-compassion.
It’s important to note the concepts I share here are personal and may not align with your beliefs, which is acceptable as the narratives I’ve used to break free from my limitations may differ from yours.
And I acknowledge and respect that we each have individual beliefs based on our personality, culture, and living situations.
So, instead of trying to conform, let us celebrate our differences and embrace creating the right new perspectives we each require to expand emotionally.
I can’t remember when, but one day after reading all the books and going on all the courses, I suddenly woke up to the fact that it was only me who was responsible for the experience of my life, nobody else.
And, as I pondered my life, I found myself increasingly intrigued by the connection between the outer world – which I was taught is reality (and governed by the rules of science) – and my inner subjective experience, which included how my senses and brain interpreted that outer reality and how this, in turn, affected my thoughts and feelings.
Initially, I thought that exploring that outer reality in-depth would offer me the answers I sought to ease my incessantly curious and unsettled thoughts.
However, upon deep reflection, I have come to the conclusion that the nature of reality is subjective and can only be comprehended by the individual Observer.
This meant I had to change my thinking to acknowledge that reality was not out there, reality was, my reality, my inner experience was my reality – even if it didn’t align with the objective happenings outside of me.
Like a Mother loving a child, but that child thinking it wasn’t loved. It is the child’s reality that he feels he isn’t loved no matter what the Mother does, especially if that child had, over time internalised that story into a belief system (of being unloveable) that would extend to unconsciously cloud all his adult thoughts.
So I had to learn that it was entirely possible for those around me to be having different perceptions and experiences of the outer world and I should try to become open to understanding and respecting those differences, yet still work on making mine more pleasant.
And, because during my childhood my senses had been conditioned to be more orientated to search for fear and danger outside of me, I would need to recalibrate them (and my brain) in new ways that might orientate them towards registering the good things in life rather than the bad.
Could I customise my senses to more pleasant settings where by default they’d filter out pessimism and focus on optimism, filter out doubt and align with trust – because that was the new subjective reality I wished to experience regardless of the truth of any situation external to me?
I consciously decided to train my thoughts to see the best in people, and to focus on their positive characteristics and optimistic outcomes even during difficult times as this would generate a more pleasant inner reality for me.
I also committed myself to upholding hope instead of giving in to despair, and attempting to remain grounded in each present moment allowing me to decide the best course of action in line with my intentions, rather than being hijacked by emotions or
getting lost in futile “what if” or “if only” thought loops which poured more fuel on the fire of procrastination and doubt.
Just as a motor-racing team can make adjustments to their car to suit a specific race track, such as adding downforce or changing tyre pressures, how could I make adjustments to my senses and awareness to better suit a new calmer way of living?
As I practised, I discovered my life could be split into two distinct realms.
The first was of tangible objects which could be measured and explained by science, such as trees and people, and in this domain, there were clear cause-and-effect type relationships between those individual objects.
However, the second domain was intangible, immeasurable, and invisible. It consisted of energetic forces I couldn’t see, touch or comprehend, such as love, fear, connection, and courage. And those forces or emotions might change instantly, affecting me, overwhelming me and seemingly functioning outside of the laws of nature.
And the more I considered what I wanted from life, the more I realised most of my desires fell within this second intangible, non- physical, non-linear realm.
I wanted to experience love, self-confidence, calmness, purpose, motivation, and trust – but there were no scientific formulas to explain how I might achieve these subjective, emotional and energetic experiences.
And this set me off on my journey – rather than just believing everything I had been taught, I could test everything out on myself to see what might happen if I surrendered to all my fears and simply tried new things, thus giving me experience rather than knowledge – a common sense rather than an intelligent perspective.