Advice I’d give my younger self about anxiety, energy and living differently — from reprogramming inner stories to treating calmness as foundation, not luxury. Advice I’d Give My Younger Self About Anxiety, Energy and Living Differently. This blog/snippet is from lecture 51 of The Calmness in Mind Process by John Glanvill. Between the ages of […]
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The term Locus of Control (LoC) is a psychological term that describes how much a person believes they can control the events of their life. If you have an ‘external‘ locus of control, you will likely feel that many aspects of life seem out of your control and believe that chance, fate, luck, God or
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Avoiding discomfort keeps life small and anxiety strong. Learn why accepting ordinary discomfort is a practical path to calm, courage and getting things done. Is Avoiding Discomfort a Sensible Strategy? If you are of a certain age (mid-life), you can often find yourself in a strange phase of your life – between the generation above
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Just for fun (or horror), we have tried to compile a list of all the phobias we can. We can’t vouch for the accuracy of all the names; however, we do know that whatever is causing you anxiety (and it can be very diverse!) you probably don’t want it anymore – and that’s where we
Emetophobia is an intense and irrational fear of vomiting or seeing others vomit. It’s more than just a dislike of throwing up; it can cause significant distress and interfere with daily life. People with emetophobia may avoid situations where they fear they might vomit, such as certain foods, crowded places, or even being around others
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Adrenal fatigue & feeling emotionally exhausted I want to say a few words about fatigue, an aching body and the feeling of total exhaustion. I know this is a very touchy subject, and nobody really has all the answers about what is happening to you (often including your doctors!) So, I want to write about
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Dissociation OCD is a condition in which the symptoms of Obsessive-Compulsive Disorder (OCD) overlap with experiences of dissociation. Dissociation is characterised by a sense of disconnection from reality, oneself, or the environment.In cases of Dissociation OCD, this sense of detachment can occur as a consequence of obsessive thoughts, compulsive behaviours, or intense anxiety. Depersonalisation, derealisation
Esoteric Obsessive-Compulsive Disorder (OCD) is a specific type of OCD characterised by obsessions and compulsions connected to abstract, philosophical, spiritual, or existential themes. Even though these symptoms may not align with the more typical categories, such as fears of contamination or the need for symmetry, they can still be significantly distressing and intrusive for those
You can’t control the outer world, but you can shape your inner reality. Learn how calm, energy and self-regard are built through practical daily processes rather than perfect circumstances. Becoming the Lead Character in Your Game of Life! (This piece is drawn from Lecture 53 of the Calmness in Mind course.) By this stage in
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Creating space to recharge and decide what you actually want… Most people never create the time and space to recharge properly. They push through exhaustion, keep reacting to whatever life throws at them, and wonder why calmness, clarity or direction never arrive. The body and mind have limits. Prolonged emotional stress depletes a kind of
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Advice I’d give my younger self, if I could (and if he would’ve listened)… This blog/snippet is from lecture 51 of The Calmness in Mind Process – which is entitled Advice I’d Give My Younger Self About Anxiety, Energy and Living Differently. Between the ages of 12 and 36, I fought my brain and emotions almost
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When standard approaches leave you stuck, the next step is testing the non-linear: energy, trauma release and higher-frequency states — without needing proof first. When mainstream approaches to anxiety run out: exploring energy, trauma and unconventional methods is your next step This blog is an extract from lecture 50, part 5 of The Calmness in
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Effective ERP means acting toward the life you want while anxiety is still present. Learn how to reverse negative patterns, treat processes as processes, and stop letting sensations dictate the next move. How to Stop Responding to Anxiety while using ERP to build the life you want. This is an excerpt from lecture 50, part
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Most anxiety runs on outdated automatic programs. Learn how positive ERP uses real-world action and new stories to rewrite the system — instead of reinforcing the old one. Reprogramming the unconscious with ERP and testing the data your brain uses to make decisions. Extract from lecture 50 part 3 of The Calmness in Mind Process
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The missing piece of ERP is the internal story (iStory). Learn how anxiety generates the opposite of who you are — and how deliberate new narratives rewrite the pattern. iStory ERP: The missing link that changes how you handle anxiety Extract from lecture 50, part 2, of The Calmness in Mind Process – A deep
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Health Anxiety and Contamination OCD improve when you build resilience instead of chasing certainty. Learn practical washing limits, body-check interruption and the “bring it on” approach. Seeing health anxiety and hypochondria in new ways Health Anxiety and Contamination OCD: Building Resilience Instead of Fear – Extract from lecture 49, part 2 of The Calmness in
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Most people never ask how their partner actually wants to be loved — or how to influence their own calm and connection chemistry. Practical tools from Lecture 41. Applying common sense to relationships and adapting your inner chemistry Extract from lecture 41 of The Calmness in Mind Process – Learning how to live without anxiety
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Most people with anxiety already practise ERP — but in the wrong direction! Learn how negative ERP keeps the fear alive, and how to reverse it with deliberate positive exposure ERP. How to Avoid the Negative ERP Trap (with Positive ERP) for Anxiety & OCD Extract from lecture 50, part 1 of The Calmness in
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Health anxiety and contamination OCD thrive on plausible fears and endless checking. Learn the common traps — and why the real problem is the strategy, not the germs. Health Anxiety, Hypochondria and Contamination OCD – Seeing the Traps Clearly (This piece is drawn from Lecture 49, Part 1 of the Calmness in Mind course.) Health
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Most anxiety is friction between an overactive analytical mind and a sidelined intuitive one. Learn how energy, movement and deliberate new stories restore balance. Using your energy, intuition and right brain more wisely! Extract from lecture 48 of The Calmness in Mind Process – by John Glanvill Most anxiety is not a mysterious medical condition.
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Intelligent, caring people often carry responsibility that isn’t theirs — and pay for it with anxiety and fatigue. Learn how clearer boundaries restore energy and calm. Exploring Your Boundaries of Responsibility & Reducing the Exhaustion of Being Too Nice Extract from lecture 47 of The Calmness in Mind Process by John Glanvill. Intelligent, complex people
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A practical six-perspective model for calm and self-mastery — Observer, nervous system, body chemistry, energy, human skills and deeper meaning. John’s Big Theory of Everything – When it comes to mental health… (This piece is drawn from Lecture 45 of the Calmness in Mind course.) At a certain point the separate pieces of the work
Procrastination is an unconscious choice that keeps a better life at arm’s length. Learn why action creates motivation — and how common-sense exposure rewrites the fear story. Using Common Sense To Stop Procrastination Extract from lecture 44 of John Glanvill’s – The Calmness in Mind Process for your mental health and wellbeing. Procrastination is rarely
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Placebo is not a trick — it is the body’s response to expectation. Learn how to use conscious suggestion and a simple trauma-release meditation to change your internal state. Placebo Is Your New Best Friend (This piece is drawn from Lecture 43 of the Calmness in Mind course.) Placebo is usually discussed as a curious
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Today I’d like to explore OCD compulsions – whether they are good or bad, changeable or not, restrictive or empowering? I guess the first question to ask is “What is a compulsion?” We see compulsions as innately irresistible urges to do certain things that will avoid some form of pain (offering relief) or lead us to an action offering
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Most relationship friction comes from loving people in the wrong currency. Learn three practical questions that clarify how you — and they — actually need to give and receive love. Do you know how you wish to be loved? Most people say they want love, yet few can clearly describe what that actually means for
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Creating your Decision-Making Framework based on your values, beliefs and intentions Creating a Decision-Making Framework That Actually Works – Extract from lecture 32, part 2 of The Calmness in Mind Process by John Glanvill. Most people never sit down and define what they actually value. They operate on childhood conditioning, inherited “shoulds,” and the loudest
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Intelligent people often use their minds to justify staying stuck. Learn why common sense outperforms clever analysis when it comes to anxiety, energy and real change. The Battle Between Common Sense and Intelligence An extract from lecture 40 of The Calmness in Mind Process for anxiety disorders by John Glanvill. Most people who struggle with
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Most anxiety is maintained by old childhood masks that still feel like “me.” Learn how to try on new behaviours, update identity stories, and move from survival to mastery. Who might our Authentic Self be beneath all our childhood conditioning? From Mask to Mastery – an extract from lecture 39 of John Glanvill’s The Calmness
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Fear is chemistry plus imagination. Learn how to stop treating the feeling as an emergency, use practical ERP, and let the body update its old predictions. There Is Nothing to Fear, including Fear Itself! An extract from lecture 38 of John Glanvill’s The Calmness in Mind Process, where I discuss using ERP on your fears
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