In this 45-minute video, we explore love and care more deeply, alongside strategies to express these feelings with less emotional trauma and exhaustion. Additionally, we begin to examine self-esteem and techniques to enhance it.
Goal of video
We explore how low self-esteem affects relationships – and we look to put complex emotions like love, care and guilt into models where we can step back and see them in a new light.
This is the phase of the course where we are looking to learn new behaviours that will break the old stories in our minds and shake up how we interact with ourselves and the world.
Keep an open mind, don’t let my direct approach phase you – and trust me when I say learning to love yourself is key to transcending anxiety and OCD and allows you to move to new levels of self-respect and self-trust.
Key messages
Do you see (and do) love how you were conditioned/taught to love? Or, how you would like to be able to love?
It is hard to love a person who struggles to receive that love.
Are there conditions for love? Like, “If you love me, then I will love you..” Or is your love unconditional? There is nothing you can do to stop me from loving you, though I may put some boundaries in place.
Love has a part you see and a part you feel. Can we stop looking for evidence that we are loved? Because (as long as the relationship is non-abusive) it is our pleasure to give/receive love.
Has anybody ever taught you how to love yourself? Self-esteem is the degree you are nice to yourself and the degree to with which you don’t let other be horrible to you!
The story of Paul and Cathy – Learning how to love them the way THEY want to be loved, and knowing how you would like to be loved (and telling them!)
Are your primitive, primordial emotional needs being met?
Have you explored what being caring means to you? Can you care but not care? “I care for you, but I don’t need to feel your feelings.”
Can you care for yourself? Is it OK to be more selfish?