Transform Anxiety with Positive iStory ERP: Rewriting Your Internal Narrative

By John Glanvill, Author of The Calmness in Mind Process for Overcoming Anxiety, OCD, and Depression

Welcome – this is Video fifty, part two – in my Calmness in Mind series – where we explore common-sense solutions for your calmer life.

In this video, I will continue to prime you – ready for when you begin to apply ERP procedures to your big fears – by teaching you the missing link in ERP, which nobody talks about.

Introducing iStory ERP

Which I call internal Story, Exposure, & Response Prevention – or iStory ERP.

My iStory Process (which I created to end my OCD) combines exposure therapy, placebo, positive self-talk, perspective awareness, intention definition, natural personality alignment, and self-respect.

The Importance of Repetition in ERP

Now, because ERP is all about repetition, for those of you who want to make the most out of this internal Story ERP process, it’s my suggestion you stop this video (after reading the following few sentences) and take a day or so – to rewatch videos 2, 3, 4, 8, and 21 – then return to watch this video.

Because, as this is video 50, it was probably a long time ago you watched them, and they will help prime your brain to better understand (and process) the information in this video.

This is the Repeated Exposure I keep talking about – and if your brain gives you the story, “I don’t need to do that,” or comes up with some other excuse story – these are great examples of the ‘Responses we are learning to Prevent! ERP – Exposure and Response Prevention!

Can you see how sneaky and subtle this is? Most people miss it completely!

Applying Positive iStory ERP Daily

We not only apply Positive ERP to our big fears but also to every negative, pessimistic (or procrastinating) story or thought, all day, every day, repeatedly, until we have upgraded the stories, attitudes, and intentions our unconscious brain proposes to us each day.

What will that new story become? Who knows? You don’t need to know; you just need to change the old one – you must stop clinging to the old story running in your head about yourself and the life you currently live.

People say to me, “John, in some situations, I can hear your voice in my head telling me what to do!”

Yes, of course, because I have been doing Positive internal Story ERP to you. Through my videos, I have been doing the very programming I wish for you to apply to yourself – because it works!

Sometimes the process is just too simple for people to recognise.

Revisiting the Negative ERP Trap

Now, before I continue – please check that you fully understand my story about The Negative ERP Trap from Video 50 Part One.

If you can’t remember, nip back; it’s only 3 minutes long and starts at the 4:50 time stamp.

I ask this because this Negative ERP Trap is probably responsible for 50% of an anxious person’s daily problems, and most people don’t even realise they are doing it!

Additional ERP Traps to Avoid

And, because I aim to provide you with the most comprehensive explanation of ERP possible (to give you the best chance of recovery) – let me highlight some more ERP Traps.

Firstly, we have a ‘Story’ about ourselves (and our anxiety) which ‘feels true’ but may not necessarily be the whole truth…

Let me explain, and though I will go into much more detail in my next video – I want to share with you the patterns (and sabotages) I’ve seen anxiety and OCD use to trick their host into fearful inaction.

You might say – the childish tricks the little horsey uses to scare you, the rider.

And really listen to what I say because, sometimes, one word, realisation, or sudden aha moment may shake your anxiety or OCD to its core – suddenly revealing the unconscious game it’s been playing all these years from the conditioning you may have received as a baby, in childhood, or your formative years!

Patterns in Pure OCD

So, here are my headlines for you to ponder.

People with Pure OCD – who have unrequested intrusive thoughts of harming others, sexually abusing people (or children), or need to run imagined ritualistic scenarios in their heads.

They tend to be nomadic in nature. They have incredible imaginations but no external outlet for that creativity, so it gets turned inwards and (unconsciously) used against themselves and on an opposite subject to who they really are.

Best if I give you an example – if you are kind and would never hurt another person, the OCD may jump to harming others (or yourself).

Why would it do that? Because that story will catch your conscious attention and scare you – as might intrusive sexual thoughts if you were a kind and respectful person.

Anxiety and OCD – always propose thoughts, stories, and images that oppose who you truly are. Otherwise, they would never be able to catch your attention, would they?

It’s just how anxiety and OCD operate. And, for most people, just knowing this is such a relief, even though, I suspect (in your heart) you already know you’d never do those things!

Anxiety tries to make you doubt yourself, thus needing reassurance, but still forcing you to ignore that reassurance and avoid that which seemingly scares you – even if it is unrealistic.

Clever, really, when observed from the logic of an eight-year-old, which is what anxiety uses, as I have said from day one of this course.

In 80% of people, it tries to make you stay at home, and in 20% of people, it tries to make you get out of your home – depending on how naturally nomadic and independent you are and the nature of your home environment and the people living there.

Patterns in Contamination OCD

Now, those people with fears about contamination, germs, and cleanliness usually fall into that same intelligent, creative, nomadic, rebellious group.

For whatever reason, their individuality and need for freedom and expression were suppressed during childhood.

These stories of contamination are just what the unconscious is using to trick them, to stop them from running off, away from their boring lives, and letting go of all responsibilities and just hedonistically doing as they wish, which is (probably) their true nature!

Can you see how sneaky this is? Trapping you at home when all you want to do is run off and be your own self, but you feel guilty that you’ll be leaving others behind and not being a responsible person (which was just how you were domesticated to think you ought to be).

However, you don’t have to take responsibility for others, it is OK to put yourself first!

The contamination story is just a horrible OCD trick, the opposite of your true nature – I hope you can see this!

If you were out travelling the world having adventures – contamination would be the last thing on your mind!

Patterns in Health Anxiety and Hypochondria

Now, if we move our attention to those with health anxiety or hypochondria, they tend to have had their dominant warrior nature repressed during their early life, often following the loss of a loved one. Sometimes, a family member (or they) had a long spell in hospital or suffered from a long-term illness – sometimes a parent worked in the medical world, so were overprotective of their children or had health anxiety too.

This suppression of their natural dominance to a more fearful state – often increased their belief they needed to take responsibility for others. However, often, this leads to a lot of suppressed anger – which may get held in the body causing inflammation and pain.

Ironically, they often make themselves ill with worry – and either get taken for granted (because they are overly willing caregivers) – or they annoy others who can see their natural dominance is being wasted by them fearing change and not focusing on their own dreams, as they are usually very capable individuals.

Patterns in Generalised Anxiety

Now for those with generalised anxiety – it is usually the result of parental, religious, or cultural conditioning during childhood. Their domestication suppressed their natural warrior and nomad tendencies into Settler positionalities – you might say they were programmed into being “Good little children…”

Which is fine until you get older and need to be “An effective adult” but haven’t learned those skills of confidence, self-esteem, self-worth, and self-responsibility.

Sometimes, this group, after long periods of anxiety, lapse down into depression either from boredom or physical exhaustion from putting other people’s needs before their own.

Occasionally, the more naturally dominant ones (that don’t have an outlet for that dominance) deteriorate into hypochondria and chronic fatigue conditions, too.

Anxiety as a Form of PTSD

I hope this is making sense. Now, if I expand further the patterns I see each day in those with complex anxiety.

There are a smaller group of people whose OCD can be seen as a form of PTSD Post Traumatic Stress Disorder – following some awful event, abuse, accident, or loss.

When triggered, they may momentarily freeze (or trance out), they often angrily lash out – or try to flee from (or avoid) certain situations.

This can also be seen in high-functioning individuals who get on with their lives and, though have the emotion of intense fear running through them, can still function – this points to trapped emotional energy from trauma.

These people often have creative minds (which is why they are high functioning) however, as they become more exhausted, that imagination turns inwards with intrusive thoughts.

In these individuals work must be done to process out those traumas from the brain and the body – and I’ll be making a video about that very shortly.

Derealisation, Depersonalisation, and Disassociation

Finally, in this section, I want to mention a symptom that some people experience called derealisation, depersonalisation, or disassociation.

It’s where you don’t feel like yourself, or you feel separate from your body, bigger, smaller, or out of control.

Now, though initially, this feels scary – this is actually the beginning of what I am suggesting you learn to do.

In these moments, you have switched from being the horse (your automated body) into being the rider – the detached observer, the influencer of what the automated body is doing.

Once again knowing this is a game changer, as you begin to trust the body, the rider can be calm even if the horsey is anxious – we can trust it and influence it from above.

Once again, I will talk more about this in upcoming videos.

Shifting Perspective with iStory ERP

OK, I hope you are beginning to see that when you observe the content of your anxiety from these new contexts. A whole new perspective begins to reveal itself.

And you can begin to form a new positive and optimistic iStory about who you really might be.

Subtle Patterns and Traps in Anxiety

Ok, so if I jump back to the topic at hand, which is changing our old autopilot unconscious negative stories into more positive ones, we must become aware of the subtle patterns we may overlook, as we are often just too close to see them.

The Trap of Dishonest Communication

Let me give you some examples: One trap is that – anxious people don’t always speak the truth (but that doesn’t make them liars either).

Rather, they are so consumed with their past experiences (their old negative internal story of themselves, or trying to please others) that they fail to realise they are not speaking with integrity.

Examples of this include – saying ‘everything is fine’ when it isn’t, agreeing to do something you don’t want to do, and failing to tell a person what you need or that their behaviours are imposing or unacceptable.

Remember, as I have said many times, we are training people how to treat us in each moment via our actions.

Our words and behaviours set up (in the other person’s unconscious brain) a Virtual Reality story of who they think we are. Which becomes the template by which they unconsciously treat us.

If they ask us to work late – and we say yes (though we mean no) – we must take responsibility for our half of that communication – which ‘appeared’ to them that we were OK with it – when we weren’t.

Therefore, if a person is not treating you appropriately, you must update their unconscious story of you – and we do this by becoming more honest and defining clearer boundaries of responsibility, as I discussed in video 47.

Developing Self-Worth Through Honest Communication

I want you to learn how to apply an honest and positive internal Story by learning how to value yourself – perhaps by saying, “OK, yeah, I can stay late; however, in return, I’d like to come in later tomorrow, perhaps at lunchtime?” Or, “Sure, I can stay late if you will pay me for my time!”

Think about it: What’s the worst that can happen? They’ll say no – but remember, you can say no too! This behaviour is called developing self-worth and is empowering, regardless of the outcome, because you spoke your truth.

If we expand this a little further – most anxious people fear conflict – however, in reality, conflict is very rare; asking for what you want isn’t conflict – it’s an act of self-love.

Asking a person to stop annoying you (or treat you more respectfully) isn’t conflict; it’s an act of self-love.

Asking your boss for a pay rise isn’t a conflict; it’s an act of self-love, no matter how they reply – taking action, even though you feel vulnerable, is always courageous, no matter the outcome of that action! This must become your new internal Story ERP mantra.

Can you see that (so often) what the individual fears is not the conflict; it’s the rejection or negative judgement they may receive when asking for what they want or standing up for themselves?

However, this can be remedied simply by decreasing your conditioned need for that person to like you (in that moment) – where you are just simply speaking your truth and being honest!

Internal vs. External Validation

Another way of looking at this is – can you learn how to swap from seeking external validation (by trying to make the other person like you) to developing your own conscious internal self-validation, where you take these actions out of love and respect for yourself, which, once again, is iSERP – Positive internal Story ERP – this is a massively important skill to learn.

For every negative (and unrequested) statement your unconscious brain proposes – you consciously reverse it into a Positive iStory ERP narrative, which you repeatedly run inside your head, “Even if they reject me, I will never reject myself!”

And, “Even if they judge me, I will never consciously judge myself!” And, “Even if my old stories try to judge me, I no longer believe them because I am a good person, doing my best, and I am happy with that!“

And “I am worthy of expressing my thoughts and my needs at this moment!”

Can you see how this Positive technique reconceptualises conflict back into what it is – which is just effective communication – and a respectful conscious inner dialogue?

This is summed up perfectly by the phrase, “Saying no to them is saying yes to me!”

I call it iStory ERP when you change your inner story to a positive one, and eStory ERP when you practice verbalising your new story by making your external communications direct, optimistic, and positive.

And with enough repetition, both your inner and external realities become more self-respectful, thus developing a new story of (and for) yourself – plus, because people see you changing, they begin to treat you differently, too.

Reversing Anger and Control Patterns

Now, the next trap to recognise is that anxious individuals may express anger and control towards family and loved ones through dominant or passive-aggressive behaviour.

However, around people whom they know less well, like work colleagues or authority figures – they often become weak and compliant – you might say, silently angry.

Therefore, a sensible eStory ERP strategy would be to reverse this scenario, whereby you are kind (and calm) with those who love you and practise being more verbally assertive with those who mean less to you.

Obviously, your family will tolerate your anxious and controlling behaviour far more than an outsider; therefore, practising how to use your dominance and control externally will expand your knowledge (and experience) of how the real world operates beyond the cloistered safety of your home (or family).

Can you see how subtle these positive Story ERP techniques are? And how common sense they are, too!

Overcoming Overdeveloped Fairness and Sentimentality

Know this: unless you repeatedly use new positive, conscious stories to overwrite the old unconscious negative stories installed from your childhood (or by your anxiety) – they will simply continue to play on the same old loop all your life!

My next observation is that many anxious people have an overdeveloped sense of fairness, a need to follow rules, and often apply overly sentimental stories to people, places, events, animals, and objects.

In reality, the world is not a fair place; nature is not reasonable; not all rules are sensible; animals do not think like humans, and inanimate objects are just things, no matter who owns them or what stories we project onto them!

Therefore, as we move to more optimistic and positive iStory ERP thoughts – phrases such as…

“What outcome is good for me in this moment?“ “How might my actions be of value to those around me?” Or, “Am I OK with the consequences of breaking this rule?” Because if you are OK with those consequences, that rule obviously becomes irrelevant!

Case Study: The Lost Wedding Ring

One of my clients recently shared with me that he had lost his wedding ring while fishing, and he was anxious about telling his (very emotional) wife because the ring had sentimental value to her – because it had belonged to her deceased father.

He considered secretly replacing it with a similar ring but knew he would be living a lie, and that troubled him – and he didn’t know what to do.

I pointed out that it had been an accident, but accidents happen, and it wasn’t fair that he lost the ring, but life isn’t fair – and that there are no right or wrong rules for what to do in this instance, however, his wife’s sentimental attachment to that inanimate object was certainly clouding his judgment.

I suggested that the simplest solution might be to honestly tell his wife what had happened, allow her to respond as she might, but not take her emotional response personally.

Then, they could choose a new ring together, and she could re-attach her father’s memory to that new inanimate object should she wish.

Alternatively, this might be an opportunity for her to respectfully ‘let him go’ and keep his memory in her heart rather than being visibly reminded of her grief each day (which is what people who hoard or collect are unknowingly doing – because they lost something in childhood, be that a person, a place, or their sense of safety).

In that example, positive iStory ERP statements such as, “It was an accident, and I forgive myself.” Or, “My wife’s emotional pain is not my pain, but I can be there for her,” may be appropriate, can you see (that if calmness is your intention) – honesty and releasing emotional attachment are very powerful techniques?

Aligning Your Story with Your Aspirations

So, as you decide to work with these subtle exposures to new positive stories, thoughts, images, and perspectives – these will begin to guide your new behaviours into expanding you – rather than your old anxious stories trying to limit you…

I suggest it would be beneficial to take time to reflect on the narrative you tell yourself about who you are. Ensure that your new inner Story aligns with the person you aspire to become and the values you outlined in the video 32-part-2 workbook.

The Importance of Starting Small

Now, because I have been doing this work for many years – I am very aware that many of you want me to fast-forward to the point where I show you how to do ERP on the big, scary problems in your life!

Well, I promise I will soon!

But for now, can you acknowledge this massively important point – that if you can’t make these relatively simple changes to your stories – what chance do you have with the big, overwhelming emotions?

Plus, even if you managed to stop the big fears, you’d still need to learn these new ways of thinking and behaving (as you stepped out into the world) or your old fears might simply return in those moments of change.

The Power of Positive iStory ERP

However, a funny thing begins to happen – as you learn to use (and repeatedly apply) these Positive iStory ERP skills.

Being dominated by your old brain’s thoughts and fears about germs, contamination, illness, people, travel, relationships, sexuality, or whatever your brain is using to grab your attention – those obsessions slowly begin to reveal themselves to be all bark and no bite, all sizzle and no steak, all mouth and no trousers, or whatever metaphor works for you…

It’s like when Toto, the dog, pulls back the curtain, revealing the Wizard of Oz as just a scared little man – shouting and screaming to be heard and to get some attention – much like our own anxious and frightened little inner child.

I’ve added a link to that scene (from the film) in the notes below. It’s only one minute long and well worth watching as it helps us remember what we’re really dealing with here.

Anxiety is just a scared little child – and deep down, you know that’s true!

Challenging Conventional Medical Narratives

So, as we dismantle our old stories, let me share with you two more of my observations that help us apply Positive iStory ERP techniques. And remember (as in placebo), the stories don’t need to (currently) be true to work…

As Henry Ford said, “Whether you think you can, or you think you can’t – you’re right.”

My next observation is – that our conventional medical institutions – often propose that medication is the first step in managing anxiety – and that OCD has a genetic element which makes it only possible to manage with drugs rather than overcome.

Now, I am not saying they are right or wrong – what I am exploring is how we might use a more Positive iStory ERP inner dialogue – when faced with such institutionally driven Negative iStories and No-cebo statements, which (as we have discussed before) may further ingrain fear into your unconscious brain.

Those statements may create an inner story which paints a picture that there is little we can do for ourselves to recover from these conditions – and all I am suggesting is – Can we try everything we can to overwrite those negative stories in our head with more optimistic ones?

Because – individuals all over the world (including myself) have indeed overcome complex anxiety, debilitating OCD, depression, and mental health breakdowns by positively reprogramming themselves and becoming different people.

This means that though those prior statements are the medical world’s truth (based on their experiential results from the processes they apply), it certainly isn’t the whole truth, is it? How can it be?

Two Paths to Recovery

Therefore, this implies (to me) that (if you are smart) there are two paths you might sensibly choose to follow.

The worthwhile positive iStory ERP of hope – which focuses on you developing new skills and taking action to reduce the impact of stress, worry, boredom, loneliness, anxiety, and pessimism on your biology. Because, as we know, those factors seem to underpin most conventional mental health issues.

And, by working on your personal growth, you become a new person, better equipped to handle life’s challenges.

Alternatively, (perhaps you could) accept what you have been told (that there is not much you can do) – and use those medications to numb down or lift yourself up.

Then, hand over the responsibility of your life to others, doctors, family members, or your partner (and there’s no wrong with that) – assuming they are prepared to do all those things for you – and many are!

Then, drop any guilt as you made that choice – and find things to do that you love doing to occupy your free time – learning, watching TV, reading, photography, looking after grandchildren, writing, playing computer games – whatever you might like to do (or would be able to do) if you dropped all your old inner conflict.

Now, I know I am being blunt here, but if I don’t say it nobody else will. I’m not trying to belittle or shame anybody; I really do mean this…

If your anxiety is just too much – if life is too overwhelming for you – and you believe your mental health is genetic or something you think you are stuck with – then stop fighting it, stop expecting more from yourself than you can give, cut yourself some slack.

Selfishly do what is right for you – but acknowledge which path you have consciously chosen to take.

I suppose what I am saying is – don’t sit on the fence; dive into this work with optimism and nervous enthusiasm – immerse yourself in developing this positive and optimistic internal dialogue – just to see what might happen.

Alternatively, stop torturing yourself – if you don’t believe it’s possible to change or you think you can’t change – then realise you can still apply a positive iStory to this path, too.

On one path, a person might say – “I am looking forward to expanding my circle of friends!”

And, perhaps on the other path, “I am so lucky that my mother supports me; I will do everything I can to make her interactions with me as pleasant as possible for both of our well-being!”

Positive iStory ERP is a game changer, yet few people teach it, very few understand it, and even fewer live by it.

I really hope you can see what I am pointing to here as it is so subtle.

Epigenetics and Personal Responsibility

Now, if we jump back to the statement often made that OCD is incurable because it’s genetic – Well, I just don’t believe that is completely true!

Firstly, because I overcame my OCD, and secondarily because science has identified that the expression of our genes is largely influenced by the environment they reside within – this process is called epigenetics, as I discussed in video 7 – and keep reminding you about because our doctors don’t discuss it!

Anxious children of anxious parents may learn to think and act in similarly anxious ways, thus forming the same anxious beliefs and generating similar internal chemical responses which may express similar genetic propensities.

Therefore, instead of resigning ourselves to the belief that our genes determine everything, perhaps we could take more responsibility for the emotional and chemical environment we create within ourselves, which turns on and off those genes.

Our well-being is greatly influenced by our attitudes, beliefs, thoughts, food, and actions.

We can change (or improve) the attitudes we learned during our domestication or from the people we are currently surrounded by, whether at home or in the workplace.

Epigenetics and Gene Expression

Let me give you an example: Why is it that only 50% of women who inherit the BRCA1 or BRCA2 gene mutations which cause breast cancer – actually go on to develop breast cancer?

Or, if we phrase that differently – why is it that 50% of women who inherit that same gene – have some sort of epigenetic environment in their brain and body which stops that gene from becoming active – it remains dormant, though still being present.

Could it be – who we become – and influencing factors such as thoughts, food, sleep, social interactions, and the attitudes we use each day to accept (or avoid life) play a major role in this lifelong game of gene expression?

Consequently, questions I ask myself are…

“How can I try to prevent certain life-restricting genes from expressing themselves within myself?”

And, “If a gene were to become expressed, what actions might I take to halt, reverse (or counteract) its expression?”

And, “How might I keep my natural immunity strong and up-to-date by mixing with larger groups of people, touching things, travelling, and not over-sanitising my body or living environment?”

I think it’s similar to the observation… That, if some people have anxiety, but others don’t. What are those who don’t have anxiety knowingly (or unknowingly) doing which stops them from becoming emotionally overwhelmed?

And, I’d like to suggest that they worry less, speak up more, and are far more optimistic and engaged with life – which is ERP in action!

It is possible for a person to make their inner reality a place of beauty – regardless of what is happening externally around them – as I described in video 45 in my big theory of everything!

Can you see that when you step out of the content of anxiety, move to the context of the situation, and then up again to the perspective of your life – a whole new story may emerge?

Top Tips for Positive iStory ERP

So, as you begin to reprogram yourself – let me remind you of some top tips that will help.

Identify as the Observer

Firstly, as I’ve said a million times – if you are still identifying with your brain (or your thoughts) as being you, then you’ll likely be stuck forever.

Your sense of self must switch to become that of the Observer (or the witness) of the thoughts of the brain, with its creative imagination, conditioned responses, and age-old, negative (or fearful) thoughts that keep running on an unconscious loop.

You, the Observer, may be considered as the formless energy of conscious awareness, your life force, or your Soul – which, upon death moves on, or that energy just slips back into nature.

It is crucial to understand that your thoughts may not always reflect reality. Just as we don’t give too much importance to our dreams, it is equally important to realise that our daytime dreams come from the same brain!

Our thoughts are just our brain’s way of trying to make sense of the happenings in the outside world.

Emotions as Chemical Reactions

Next up – Our emotions are essentially chemical reactions within our body, triggered either by our thoughts or by an overreaction from our brain, particularly from its Amygdala region, which may have become hypersensitive.

It is possible to desensitise the Amygdala with the right type of ERP, and we can more easily than you might imagine – accept (and ignore) any bodily reactions to those erroneously released fear chemicals.

Uncovering Ego Cover Stories

Another tip – is to notice the cover stories your ego may have adopted to avoid feeling silly about its anxious or avoidant behaviours, as I detailed in video 14.

Like a person with social anxiety using the cover story, “I’m shy, that’s why I don’t go out.” Or, a person with body dysmorphia (or feeling bodily disgust) unconsciously using the cover story, “I am not looking to be in a relationship just now?”

Once we can see these cover stories – we quickly integrate them into new, more productive narratives using iStory ERP – with statements like, “I’m not shy; I am lonely! Let me change this – I will develop my communication skills by talking to more people and joining a club.”

Embracing Change and Action

As you try new things, remember that outcomes can’t be controlled, but they can be influenced, and nothing in life is certain, but taking action will move your life forward in some manner.

And as you try new things, accept that change is inevitable and should be embraced, not feared – and new skills can be learned; everybody started knowing nothing, then learned, then practised, then perfected – I think we sometimes forget that.

Realise, that it is willpower and desire that will propel you forward in life not fear and doubt! – For example; even after making so many videos – a childish voice in my head tells me all the negative reasons I shouldn’t make them!

But I desire to do them, so I listen to my heart’s passion and make myself vulnerable by expressing my creativity rather than listening to my stupid brain, which is just an organ in my head and not me!

Navigating Resistance to Change

Next up – When you embark on a journey of change, it’s common for those around you to resist and try to hold you back. This is because most people are uncomfortable with change.

However, it’s essential to understand that though change is required, it’s often a very destructive process – you may need to demolish your old life before you can build something new. However, it’s through this disruption that you lay the foundation for a new and better life.

Retraining the RAS

And finally, one of the biggest secrets to positive change comes from retraining the unconscious RAS part of your brain to see life differently – by educating it to align with your intentions (as I mentioned in video 18) – people who do this daily have profound changes in their lives!

And if you have any resistance to doing this – see it as your anxiety sabotaging you from taking action, as I discussed in video 30 – then resist that resistance – and program that new iStory into your RAS – it changes everything (however, knowing this fact makes no difference) – it’s by repeatedly doing the programming that changes everything!

Homework and Next Steps

OK, lots to consider!

In my next video (ERP Part 3) – I will take you step by step through the main ERP process and teach you anxiety interrupts, methods to calm yourself down, and further techniques to reprogram your brain.

Until then – I have two pieces of homework – firstly, to practice using my positive iStory ERP narrative until it becomes more natural.

And secondly, I have captured my overall anxiety process in one document, ranging from listing the most common types of anxiety, how they overwhelm us, and how we try to cover them all up.

I then list my thoughts on how anxiety functions, and then – I have begun to outline the varied (and many) areas of your life where my process of ERP can be applied.

It’s not for the faint-hearted – but then again, the faint-hearted are not my target audience – I want to work with people who’ll try everything to find calmness.

Check it out and visually wander around it – for now, this is just for reference, but it will become further refined and active in my next video.

For those of you really serious about understanding anxiety and my process, you can download this pdf file from the notes below – and most online print shops will print this out as an A1 poster and mail it to you for $20 or so.

Conclusion

OK, there is lots to do as you practice positive iStory ERP, and I make the next part – of the ERP section – of the course.

So, let’s get changing those iStories and eStories 🙂

Thanks a lot!